10 Things That Cause Pre Wedding Fights

Being engaged is always an awesome experience. This is the time when you feel that you are on the top of the world. But like all other relationship in the earth it is not unlikely that you might encounter a pre wedding fights during this time. It this article we will look at the top ten causes of pre wedding fights and how to avoid them.


Pre wedding fights – Causes and how to avoid them


1. Make a wedding budget

It is not quite surprising that money is number one when it comes to causes of pre wedding fights. The difference of opinion regarding how to spend your wedding budget often sparks to pre wedding fights. The way your fiancé spends your dollars might not make sense to you. For example you may want to keep aside a bulk amount from your budget for an extravagant honeymoon, while you are planning an epic reception and want to put a significant amount for the big day.
If you try to avoid issues like this, compromise is the best solution. Try to understand why your partner think that the way she feel is important. Try to look at the thing from her perspective. Both of you should be able to detect what is driving the desire to choose one over another.

2. Your partner is not as enthusiastic as you are

You are spending most of your time in planning the big day, but your partner seems to be indifferent? He might not show any interest in wedding related discussion. It might appear to you that he does care enough or care at all about the biggest event of your life, which is quite disappointing for you. Thus the lack of enthusiasm often leads to pre wedding fights between couples.

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3. I am doing all the plan

It often happens that you are doing to all the pre wedding arrangement and your partner is busy with her wedding dress. The lack of participation in wedding arrangement can become an issue when it creates some misunderstanding between the couples. It might get disappointed to see her indifference while you are expecting her to contribute in preparing for the big day.
To avoid this problem it is favorable that you discuss about your ideas with her and ask for her suggestion and let her say how she can help you. Not doing this might lead her to think that you are not paying any heed to her choices.

4. I don’t agree with The quest list

The guest list of your wedding can also be an issue. You may want to be surrounded by all of your family and friends on this big day. But your fiancé is thinking about the effects of your guest list on his budget and venue choice. It may be that he just don’t like the program to be as crowded as a public event and wants only close friends and family on the day.
If issues like this cause pre wedding fights, the best solution is to make your partner understand that you are inviting the people whose presence does matter to you and how they will support you going forward in coming days as a couple.

5. What about my Family?

Most couple drag themselves into a pre wedding fight on issues regarding family. One may think that his fiancé is giving more priority to his family’s decision over her choice. Or your partner may not feel comfortable with how you deal with his family before wedding and feel you don’t care about his family tradition.
In cases like this both should come to a point that it’s not about your family or her family, it’s all about the new family where you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with all the other people around you.

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6. He is too possessive

When your partner becomes over possessive about you that it is for sure going to be a cause of pre wedding fight. Questions like, “where were you all the day?” “Why didn’t you pick my call” “why don’t you reply my e mail or text?” or comments like “I don’t want you to wear the bare back gown anymore”, or “I don’t want your ex-boyfriend to be in our wedding” are signs that your partner is being over possessive.

The key to avoid disagreement in this issue is to negotiate and to respect each other as a human being. You can overcome this problem when you realize that your spouse is your partner not your property.

7. We don’t spend time together

If you have not spend much time together since you are engaged it can cause a pre wedding fight too. Your partner might think that you do not enjoy spending times together. If you have not had any outing or dine out recently or forget to present her a nice gift on her birthday it may create distance between you.
Spending more time together is the best solution. Beside try to understand that not taking you to a candle light dinner does not necessarily imply that he is not romantic or doesn’t care about, maybe he is planning something grand!

8. This is my tradition

Differences often emerges between couples regarding traditions, values, customs or religion. Especially if you don’t belong to the same ethnic or social background that you do this issues may become crucial. The may be cases when you feel that your partner is not making an effort to understand your tradition.
If handled calmly and sensitively you can overcome this issue by letting your partner know what you expect from him and why your tradition matters to you.

9. That old friend

An old friend in a new relationship may be a problem sometimes. If your partner is maintaining a good relationship with his or her ex, you guys are most likely to encounter a pre wedding fight.

Solution? Discuss, negotiate and compromise. And most importantly trust and be trustworthy!

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10. I want to live here

Territory is often a major issue in wedding which may cause disagreement between couples. Your partner think that you should be staying in South Carolina after marriage while you want to be in New Jersey because your family live there.
This is indeed an issue! Identify your priority as a couple, your job, and your family comfort and make a decision together.

Pre wedding fights are unexpected but not unavoidable. It is quite understandable that you will not agree about everything, but you should agree to disagree. Remember, conflict is inevitable but fighting is a choice!

John Eastham started his career as an investigator at an early age beginning in the area of Private Investigations. He provides quality investigation services in the UK and makes use of advanced equipment to solve different cases of clients. He presently works at a private eye agency leading the private investigation department.

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